Sunday, October 19, 2014

The Twelve Star Hotel

The Hospice House at Southminster for my dear man.
 Someone there told me this morning that as a quilter they would never make Hexies.  I said..hmmm, if you were sitting by a hospital or Hospice bed day after day....I'll bet you would!!
Last night I followed the ambulance transport from the hospital to the Hospice House.  It was harrowing because he was so fragile.  In I walk following the stretcher only to see one of my mother's former Hospice nurses on call for Himself...the grief journey gets complicated...
I find it quite amazing that the concussion bit keeps coming back to me.  The brain is certainly interesting.  The protocol for concussion is to sit back and do nothing.  So the body talks to itself, ,me thinks.
They say that Mr. O can only stay there up to two weeks till his symptoms are managed, then off home he comes to me on Hospice, with his feeding tube, oxygen, suction machine, Trilogy machine, Hoyer lift, breathing vest,cough assist and wheelchair.  We will need to hire part-time help to care for him and we need to hire someone to widen the back door to accommodate the wheelchair.
I am terrified. Our family cannot do all this, although my daughter thinks we can.  He is paralyzed below the waist and cannot transfer.
The Hospice doc had a consult with us. He said that these kinds of blood clots can move and do a person in in a second.  Great...makes for a calm day to day existence.
I am sitting now in my sewing room talking to my concussion telling it to chill. I am thrilled to have the house to myself for a bit.
My husbands brother, Brendan leaves today.  My daughter's man Brian leaves today.
Kisses and hugs to all of you who commented and to all of my friends and family far and near.



13 comments:

beth said...

I've been thinking of you and your dear man so much Praying for you in all of this and sending love.

joy said...

Let me know if I can help. For real.

Alcea Rosea 31 said...

Love the hexies, you are just what he needs to see, sitting sewing. I can only come out with the usual sayings, take each day as it comes. Hugs.

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Mary Jerz said...

The Hospice House is taking good care of your wonderful man. Thinking of you and your family. If you need anything just drop me an email. Mary

smazoochie said...

I wish I could something more than just say that you are in my heart. Stay as strong as you can, lean on others when you need.

Mary said...

Both of you continue in my prayers. Take time to take care of yourself too.

Rachaeldaisy said...

Sending you and your family strength and love.

Holee said...

Sending hugs just for you tonight
{{{Hugs}}}

Sharon said...

I'm sorry to hear that the stress of all this is causing you concussion problems. Take good care of yourself (easy to say, tough to do). Wish I could do more to help, but you and your Mr. O are in my thoughts. Hugs to you.

I'm so glad you have some soothing hexies to stitch on!

Michele Bilyeu said...

Had to remove all my duplicate comments.just when my heart is so full of all of this, when I am filled with my own memories of such great love verging on even greater impending loss all I can say is that I am thinking of all of you and sending love.

Courtney said...

You are all in my thoughts and prayers so often. Glad y have your hexies to help keep you busy.